Ex·pec·ta·tion: the act or state of expecting: a looking forward to or waiting for something; 2 · chances of good or bad fortune ; 3 · something expected ...
At times letting go of expectations can be a difficult task to achieve, especially when we are fixated on an idea and a specific outcome, however, it's a necessary part of the healing process. When we feel hurt by the actions of others, it's easy to get trapped in a cycle of disappointment and resentment. The important thing to remember is that no matter how hard we try, we cannot control the outcome of every situation or control the behavior or choices of others. Instead, we must learn to accept what is and let go of our expectations to live a life that provides clarity and peace.
By cultivating an inner voice of acceptance, we can learn to let go of expectations and take a more optimistic perspective in life, that doesn’t leave us feeling powerless or drained. This doesn't mean that we don't care or feel hurt by others' actions - it just means that instead of getting stuck in negative emotions or patterns, we choose to focus on what inspires and motivates us. As a result, letting go of expectations, we open ourselves up to new possibilities and experiences that can ultimately bring us joy and fulfillment.
In other words, we can't control the behavior of others and it's not fair to expect them to act differently than they do. However, we can control how we react to those actions. The truth is none of us are perfect, so expecting someone else to be unselfish or kind toward us isn't always realistic. Instead of allowing yourself to get angry or sad over someone else's behavior, non-judgmentally acknowledge that some people may not have a level of awareness that they have harmed. Remember, this does not excuse the behavior. However, it is important to decide to not give your power away by becoming emotionally charged. This takes self-mastery and does not happen overnight, but with practice and self-awareness, those emotional charges that you experience dissolve over time.
To be honest with you, having expectations of others can be exhausting because you're expecting someone to do something that may not be easy or natural to them.
While anger and loath may feel good at the moment it leads nowhere and robs you of so much like your joy. The important thing is to focus on what you can control, which are your thoughts, and actions, what you give your energy to, your boundaries, the way you speak to yourself, and how you handle challenges.
My journey with expectations hasn’t always been as graceful or easy undertaking. I have been met with many disappointments and have been upset by the actions of others. What I have discovered is that my peace of mind and energy are truly valuable to my well-being. And when I can rise and change my perspective on the situation, I free myself from indignant thoughts and the need to expect outside circumstances to change.
One last thought, continue being the beautiful and vibrant human that you are. There is no one quite like you, the world needs GOOD HUMANS. If you need assistance with this area or any other areas of your life, please don’t hesitate to reach out.